The kids are grown, now what?: Are You A Brave Woman? #CBias #BraveWoman

Saturday, December 10, 2011

Are You A Brave Woman? #CBias #BraveWoman

In 1983 I entered into an abusive relationship that lasted until 1991. I had one child from a previous relationship and then had two more children with my abuser. After a brutal beating and being held at gunpoint for four hours I tried to leave. I called the local women's shelter from emergency room. They asked me what I wanted to do. I told them that I didn't know what my options were. They told me to call back when I figured out what I wanted to do. I went back to my abuser. I took the abuse because I thought by taking it my children would be safe. I was wrong.

A few months later my daughter told me that she was being molested. I was in shock. We packed up and went to a friend's house. I had him arrested and I filed for divorce the next day. YOU DON'T MESS WITH MY KIDS.

According to the Domestic Violence Resource Center, one in four women has experienced domestic violence in her lifetime. Domestic Violence knows no class boundaries. If you have not experienced it then you know someone who has.

What can you do to help? Brave Woman is a grassroots movement to shift personal and public perception of women facing domestic violence situations from a victim mentality to one of courage and strength.

Connect with Brave Woman on Facebook.
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How did it turn out for me? I finished my diploma in respiratory care. I moved to South Dakota with my two younger children. My oldest daughter is married and gave me one spectacular grandson. You can move on. You can be a Brave Woman.

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.
This post has been compensated as part of a social shopper insights study by Collective Bias. All opinions and ideas are my own.

35 comments:

Heather said...

I am so glad you are okay!! This must have been hard to write about. Thank you for sharing with others!!!

mglawler said...

It was harder to write than I thought it would be. Thanks for stopping by!

Amy @ As The Bunny Hops said...

How horrible that you didn't have the help when you reached out the first time. I'm hoping they're better trained now and better able to handle situations like that. It infuriates me to think of you being told to call back when you figured it out.

Amanda said...

I'm glad you were able to find the strength to leave, and that you and your kids ended up in a safe place.

mglawler said...

@Amy, more and better services are now available. Thanks!

Romina said...

I can not imagine what you went through, but can say that what you did, by leaving, was incredibly courageous. Congratulations on moving forward and building a much better life for you and your children. Thank you for sharing this story. I hope that someone out there finds this inspiring.

mglawler said...

Thanks, Romina. I hope that someone reads it and finds the strength to leave.

Lisa Ladrido said...

I am so glad you were able to get out safely. It takes a lot of strength to leave. SU blog hopping! Lisa

LisaWeidknecht said...

I left an abusive man many years ago. Good for you! Thanks for joining my It's a Wonderful Life Planet Weidknecht Weekend Hop!

Michelle said...

Wow!
What an amazing story!
My sister has been in multiple abusive relationships unfortunately but I'm happy to say they're all in her past


returning the follow from super stalker and mama's baby cupcakes

wizkey said...

Thank you for sharing!! Good for you for moving beyond a bad situation and for stepping up for your kids.

jenny at dapperhouse said...

You have lived through pain and anguish that many will never understand. Writing this may inspire a woman to take an act of true courage and change lives by getting out. Thank you for posting your story and the hope that being self-reliant must be done especially when children are involved.
I am Stumbling you from our "Super Sunday Stumble".
Take care!

jenny at dapperhouse

mglawler said...

Thank you, Jenny!

Sue said...

Very inspiring - glad it turned out well for you - Thank you for sharing.

Now following you on Networked Blogs, Facebook, GFC & G +

Thanks for following me :)

Audra @ The Kurtz Corner said...

Thanks for stopping by the Sunday Social at The Kurtz Corner! Following you now! :)

MAMA BRANDI said...

This had to be hard to share. Thank you for telling your story. My prayer is that it is a blessing and inspire someone to be a Brave Woman.

Jessica @FoundtheMarbles said...

You are so brave, not only for leaving and for raising three kids after all that but also for telling your story. I admire your strength and I am so glad that your bravery got you out of that awful situation.

mglawler said...

Thank you, Jessica.

Jules from A Little Bite of Life said...

Thank you for sharing your story--in the end, you were brave and you took care of your family! The more we talk about domestic violence, the less it can be "swept under the carpet".

Darcy said...

What a shame they didn't help you then - you'd think they would know to guide you and offer you options.

Amber said...

It is a shame that years ago people didn't realize the severity of these situations! I'm so glad you were able to get out and continue on in life!

Amy Clary said...

Goodness. I can't believe that someone would send you away without options on how you could get help. That's just horrible. Thankfully, you're helping to right that wrong by sharing your story and inspiring other women that they can do like you did and leave.
Thanks for being open enough to share your heart!

mglawler said...

Crazy, isn't it? I spoke with someone about a year later and told them what happened. They assured me that they had a much better training program in place for their hotline volunteers.

Living in La La Land said...

Shame on that women's shelter! They are part of the reason a lot of women feel they need to go back to their abusers. They should have taken action to ensure that you and your kids were safe from that monster!
I am glad you got out and although the emotional and physical scars are still there your empowering other #BraveWomen by sharing your story!

Someday I'll Learn said...

I'm so glad you found the strength to leave. It's never simple and it's tragic that this happened to your family, but you are an inspirational woman for overcoming it and having so much happiness and success in your life.

blogunteer said...

Thank you for sharing your story. Glad you are safe!

Heather McDougle said...

This made me cry! I am so glad you were able to get out of that horrible relationship and flourish since then! Thank you for sharing your story!

mglawler said...

Thanks for reading it, Heather. I hope it inspires someone else to get out of a bad situation.

The Local Cook said...

Thank you for sharing - you are definitely a brave woman!

Christy @ Insanity Is Not An Option said...

I wish more people would get help before the children get involved, but it is so hard! Thank you for sharing such a personal experience. You are brave and I commend you!

Tonia @ TheGunnySack.com said...

Thank you for sharing your experience! I am so sorry for your difficult time but you are truly a brave woman!

Closer to Lucy said...

You are definitely a Brave Women, not only for getting through but for sharing.

mglawler said...

Thanks, Carmen!

Melissa + Tiffany @ Home Grown Families said...

I can;t imagine how hard that was to share with us, to put your story out there for the world to see. We are so grateful you did. Your story will help a reader be brave in the face of domestic violence, so thanks for sharing. I shared it on a showcase blogger post.

mglawler said...

Thank you! I hope that someone reads it and finds the strength to become a brave woman.

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